How to Reconnect With Yourself When Life Feels Overwhelming | Julia Wali

There comes a time in every woman’s life when she feels like she’s giving everything to everyone else—her family, her work, her home—but has nothing left for herself. You wake up tired, go through the motions, and deep down, you wonder… “Where did I go? When did I lose myself?”

If you’ve ever felt this way, know that you are not alone. And more importantly—you can gently, lovingly reconnect with yourself. This is not about adding another task to your already full plate. It’s about remembering the woman you’ve always been, underneath the noise and responsibilities.

Here are 5 gentle but powerful ways to reconnect with yourself when life feels overwhelming.

1. Give Yourself Permission to Pause

As women, we often wear busyness like a badge of honor. If we’re not constantly doing something, we feel guilty or unproductive. But here’s the truth: rest is not lazy—it’s life-giving.

When you pause, even for just a few moments, you create space for your nervous system to reset. Your body and soul are constantly whispering to you, but if you’re always rushing, you won’t hear them.

💡 Try this: Today, carve out 15 minutes just for you. Close the door, silence your phone, and breathe. You don’t need candles or music or a perfect setting. Simply give yourself permission to stop. Feel your breath move in and out. Let your shoulders drop. Allow yourself to just be.

When you start practicing pauses daily, you’ll notice you feel calmer, more centered, and more present with your loved ones.

2. Journal Your Heart Out

When life feels like too much, your thoughts pile up and create heaviness. Journaling allows you to let those thoughts out—without judgment, without anyone’s opinion, just raw honesty with yourself.

Journaling isn’t about writing beautifully; it’s about writing truthfully. It gives you the chance to check in with your inner self, the part of you that often gets ignored when you’re constantly giving to others.

💡 Try this: Ask yourself one gentle question: “What do I need right now that I’ve been ignoring?” Then write without editing. Maybe you’ll discover you need rest, fun, connection, or solitude. By writing, you create clarity and reconnect with your true desires.

Over time, your journal becomes a safe space where you can see your growth and remind yourself of your inner strength.

3. Reconnect With What Brings You Joy

Think back to a time before the responsibilities, before the endless to-do lists. What made you light up? Did you love painting, singing, gardening, reading, or dancing around your room to music? Those moments weren’t just hobbies—they were little windows into your soul.

As life gets busy, joy is often the first thing we sacrifice. But joy is essential to your well-being. When you do something that makes your heart smile, you recharge in a way no amount of productivity ever can.

💡 Try this: Choose one joyful activity—something simple—and schedule it this week. Play music and dance with your kids, take a walk in the park, or spend 20 minutes reading your favorite book. Start small, but be consistent. Little sparks of joy add up to a fire within.

4. Set Boundaries With Love

One of the reasons we feel so overwhelmed is because we keep saying yes to everything. Every request, every responsibility, every demand. But every yes you give to someone else is a no to yourself.

Boundaries are not walls; they’re bridges to healthier relationships and a healthier you. When you set boundaries with love, you honor your needs while still caring for others.

💡 Try this: Think of one area in your life where you feel stretched too thin. Maybe it’s saying yes to every school event, overcommitting at work, or being available 24/7 to friends. Practice saying no in a gentle but firm way. For example: “I’d love to help, but I don’t have the capacity right now.”

Boundaries create space for your soul to breathe. They help you reclaim your energy so you can show up as your best self.

5. Seek Support—You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

Beautiful one, sometimes the bravest step is admitting that you need support. We live in a world that tells women to “do it all” and “be everything for everyone.” But you were never meant to carry it all alone.

Support doesn’t make you weak—it makes you wise. Whether it’s a trusted friend, a sister, a community of women, or a coach who can guide you, having someone in your corner can help you find yourself faster and more fully.

💡 Try this: Reach out to someone and share honestly: “I feel like I’ve lost myself, and I’m trying to find me again.” You may be surprised at how many women will respond with, “Me too.”

And if you feel called, remember I’m here to walk alongside you. Sometimes just one conversation can open the door back to yourself.

🌸 Final Thoughts

Reconnecting with yourself isn’t about perfection or changing your entire life in a day. It’s about tiny, intentional choices that remind you who you truly are. Every pause, every journal entry, every moment of joy, every boundary, and every brave step toward support brings you closer to you.

And you deserve to meet her again. She’s been waiting for you all along. 💖

✨ Want to take the next step? Book a free Reset Call with me here. Let’s journey back to YOU, together.